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The Modern Day Juliet
Submitted by April on Wed, 02/10/2010 - 12:30
When I was a little girl and first heard of Romeo and Juliet, I thought, “How romantic! Star-crossed lovers destined to be with each other!” Then I later learned as a teenager that they both die at the end! What’s so romantic about that?! And they only knew each other for a short time?! That’s just straight up infatuation! Their families were feuding against each other too?! No wonder there was drama!
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve heard stories of people who have met for short periods of time, fell madly in love, have gotten married, and are still married to this day. My grandmother is one of them! I know that in-laws and family members will not necessarily see eye to eye either. Let’s be realistic though, especially since divorce is so prevalent today in the United States.
I want to challenge women to wake up and stop living in a fairy tale. I feel that so often women rely on men to “save” them. I may be over-exaggerating, but I believe that some girls have this distorted view of love due to Disney-type movies that they watched when they were younger:
“If only my knight in shining armor would come here to rescue me from this wretched life that I live. I feel so incomplete without him. I feel like my other half is out there and I need to find him.”
Aaaah! Garbage!
Wake up woman! It’s 2010! The Shakespearean play of Romeo and Juliet was believed to be written in the late 1500s. You need to be a whole woman first before you commit yourself to another person. You can only expect a man to love you as much as you love yourself. Also, real love looks after the well-being of others not just you and your partner’s own self-interests. Real love is NOT selfish nor is it being heavily engrossed in just one person that the whole world fails to exist. Real love is MUCH more than that.
When I was younger I had the mentality that “All I need is you and I will be happy.” Or, “As long as we love each other we’ll be okay.” My dad and older brother had to break the news to me, but at that time I was so stubborn that I wouldn’t listen. Ten years later, I’m shaking my head and eating my words. I want to tell my younger self, “Wake up! Don’t get so serious too soon! Live your life first! See the world!” I think I would have saved a lot of heartache and pain if only I had listened, but it is a lesson well-learned!
So modern day woman, what do you do? Well, if you’re currently in a relationship and not married, ask yourself two questions:
1.) Does this person make me happy?
2.) Does this person bring out the best in me?
And vice versa too. Love isn’t one sided. The person should be able to answer yes to both of them as well. If you answered “no” to any of those two questions, then maybe it’s time to ask yourself “Why is that so?!” I’m sure “Mr. Right” is waiting to be with you, but you’re stuck with “Mr. Right Now” who doesn’t necessarily make you happy or bring out your best. Why waste your time?! I say, “Chuck him to the side and make room for the person who is the best match for you! There’s a lot of good men out there, but it doesn’t mean they are the RIGHT one for you.”
If you’re single and don’t have a significant other, here’s the best advice I can give you:
Who cares if you don’t have anyone right now?! Live your life! Be free! Be happy! Do the things that you love to do! Learn to love everything about yourself, and I mean everything including your quirks, flaws, and imperfections. Become the person who you want to be with! I’m sure you’ll attract the RIGHT people in your life.
That is something that I have learned and I am very happy right now! I don’t need someone to make me happy. Romeo and Juliet is overrated. I am not going to kill myself if I can’t be with a guy! I'd rather live my life! I am happy being drama- free.
So modern day woman what are you waiting for?
Not for a man! That’s for sure!
Get up right now! Get ready to live your life and be the person you were meant to be!
The modern day Juliet does not sit around and wait for her Romeo because she is too busy LIVING her life!
When you're ready and the other person is ready, then that's another story!
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I completely agree, many
I completely agree, many Disney-Type Movies subconsciously influence many young girls to feel like all they need is a man to rescue them in order to feel complete and happy. Women should not rely on a man to save them, that is why God gave us our own hands, legs, and brain; so we can do for ourselves.
As you know, I have a dream of one day (hopefully soon ;] lol) having my own career. I'm learning that education is only half of the pieces I need in order to get my career going. As I struggle to get my career started, my Love is what makes my sour moments seem not so sour. And like a puzzle that needs all it's pieces in order for it to be complete; my Love, like my career is another piece to complete my puzzle of happiness.
Although, both my parents have taught me that I must rely on myself to be my own knight in shining armor, with ALL my heart, I still do believe in fairy tales. I do not think and believe Love will be like "The Little Mermaid" or "Aladdin" (my all time favorites), but I do believe a fairy tale is what you make it out to be.
I know, no one ever said Love would be easy, and trust me I know that to be true! To me he is my Aladdin and I am his Jasmine! He is the Tapatio to my pizza ;) lol
This has to be my fave article you have written so far!!!
P.S. my answer is Yes to both of the questions! =)
Yes totally agree happy woman
Yes totally agree happy woman + happy man = successful realtionship. We make our own selves happy and by doing so we attract the same happy person into our life. Become the partner that you seek. There is an interesting short video about the concept of uncovering our true self by "mastering the art of aloneness".
Several years ago, you asked
Several years ago, you asked me the same two questions you mentioned in your article and I couldn't answer 'yes' to either of them. I remember asking myself plenty of questions during those troubling days but those two questions really broke it down for me and put things in a better perspective as to what is truly important in a relationship. Thanks for opening my eyes, April! Now that time has passed and I've moved on to bigger and better things, I can happily answer those same two questions with a YES and a YES! :)
I agree. Every season,
I agree. Every season, whether it be a season of singleness, dating, marriage etc...they all have unique and different experiences to enjoy! Yes! It's totally about appreciating and making the most out of whatever season one may be in and especially having a healthy balance.